How to Enjoy Valentine’s Day Alone

If you’re feeling lonely this Valentine's Day, you’re actually not alone! There are plenty of others out there who aren’t in a relationship and have to trudge through this holiday. While you may feel it’s easy to let media and advertisements get the best of you, there’s actually a lot you can do to make this day special for yourself.

Throughout this article, we’re going to take a deeper look at Valentine’s Day and how single people can make the most of it.

1.) Treat Yourself

While Valentine’s Day is typically viewed as an occasion to spoil your significant other, there’s no reason you can’t use it as a day to spoil yourself. Especially if you’ve spent the last month working diligently at that New Year’s resolution you promised.

Here are a few ways in which you can treat yourself this Valentine’s Day:

  • Eat your favorite foods or at your favorite restaurant
  • Make time for hobbies you enjoy, but don’t always get to participate in
  • Take the day off of work
  • Take the time to write out what you’re grateful for
  • Sleep in later than normal

If you struggle to find a relationship due to a social anxiety disorder (SAD), you may also struggle with self-compassion. A 2012 study found that those with SAD are less likely to treat themselves - especially on occasions where it feels selfish.

There’s no reason you can’t be your own secret admirer! Buy yourself a box of candies or some flowers and remind yourself why self-love is so important.

2.) Make Other Plans

If you’re easily triggered by Valentine’s Day, it may be in your interest to make plans that avoid said triggers. Some examples include:

  • Going for a hike
  • Ordering food
  • Participating in new workouts
  • Playing your favorite video game
  • Reading a good book
  • Taking a long, restful bubble bath
  • Watching your favorite movie

If you have set plans for the day, you’re less likely to be reminded by the fact that you’re single. Furthermore, you’ll be able to relish in the alone time that you have.

However, most importantly, it’s key to avoid activities that may make you feel depressed during Valentine’s Day. This can include watching a romantic movie or going to a restaurant where a lot of other couples are.

If you’re the type who’s keen on ignoring Valentine’s Day, you may simply just want to treat it like any other day.

3.) Continue Your Normal Life

There are no rules saying you have to do something special on Valentine’s Day. With that in mind, it may be in your best interest to simply do everything you’d normally do.

This may include:

  • Cleaning the house
  • Exercising
  • Going grocery shopping
  • Going to work or school
  • Preparing your own meals
  • Walking the dog (or engaging with your pet)

Some people prefer to treat Valentine’s Day as any other day in the year. And that’s okay!

4.) Make Someone Else Feel Special

As mentioned, many people tend to feel alone on Valentine’s Day. It’s likely you have friends or family members who also don’t have a significant other and are going to be trying to avoid romantic reminders.

In such cases, there’s no reason you can’t pay forward a Valentine’s gift to someone you care about. This doesn’t necessarily have to be someone you’re romantically interested in. Rather, just someone you’d like to see smile.

You should especially consider those who have recently lost a significant other - whether through break-up or death. Even just a small gift is a friendly reminder that you care.

5.) Look For Support

If you continue to struggle with loneliness on Valentine’s Day, it may help to reach out for support. Initially, you may consider talking to other single friends. They’re in a similar position to you and likely don’t have plans on Valentine’s Day.

It can be beneficial to simply plan a date where you can discuss problems you may be going through in your life. Not to mention, the socialization will naturally help you feel less lonely.

However, if you’re struggling with deeper issues that Valentine’s Day simply exasperates, you’ll likely want to talk to a mental health professional. If you’re already seeing a professional, it can help to discuss your feelings about Valentine’s Day and work out solutions on how to overcome these emotions.

Final Word

While Valentine’s Day is a difficult time of year for many, it doesn’t have to be. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you shouldn’t celebrate yourself. Maybe you’ve just moved away from a toxic relationship or simply aren’t in the right position to fall in love with someone.

Regardless of your circumstances, Valentine’s Day can be a moment to appreciate self-love and all else you’ve already accomplished.